You may feel ready to find someone, ready to be in a relationship, to be in love, or to get married. You may feel like you've been in the game for awhile, and that there's no good people left to date. Or maybe as if finding someone is never going to happen for you... But really, what is SO wrong with being single?
I took a poll on Facebook recently asking all of my single friends the reasoning behind them being single. I found almost every answer to be somewhat relatable. I also feel like even though we're all single right now that our end games are all the same; someone to spend the rest of our lives with. Right now may not be the right time though, and here are 6 reasons why it's okay to be young and single:
Being single gives you time to focus and to learn yourself: During this time, figure out who you are and who you want to be. Find your own identity first instead of looking for it in another person. Being in your 20's/30's is hard enough trying to find your identity. There's so many things you can lose yourself in... college, career, drinking, drugs, or even other people. But let me tell you, the only thing that's been my constant is God--the only person in this world that is truly fulfilling. The more I learn about Him, the more I learn about myself, and who I want to be.
Being single gives you time to be selfish: Goals? Ambitions? This is your time to find those! Dream BIG! Nothing is holding you down. Go and meet new people, travel, or try new things. This is the time to make decisions for yourself. I have big dreams and big plans that God has put inside of me for a reason. I can freely do what God has called me to do without asking anyones permission. I don't have to worry about my dreams clashing with someone else's aspirations.
Being single gives you the time to become the person you want to be: Who do you want to be at the end of the day? What kind of person do you see yourself with, and would that kind of person be happy with who you are right now? Everyday strive to be the best you can be! While I'm waiting, I'm praying; praying that I can become the woman of God that my husband will need one day, and praying he's doing the same for me.
Being single gives you time to fall in love with your life: We don't need to rely on other people for our happiness, that's a good way to end up hurt, and disappointed every time. Find happiness within yourself, find it within our beautiful and perfect Creator! When you come to love yourself that is when you see the world a little differently. It shines a little brighter, and you see the beauty in things you haven't quite seen before.
Being single doesn't mean you have to be alone: Don't buy into the idea that single is lonely--embrace it. Be your own good company! Don't take for granted the people that surround you everyday. You still have your family and friends. God is there from the beginning of the day to the end. He's the best company... better than any relationship has to offer.
Never let the fear of being single cause you to settle: I am a firm believer that everyone has that one person they are supposed to end up with. God created someone for you (they will have their flaws) that has the same beliefs as you, that loves like you do, and when the timing is right will be perfect for you. Being single right now will be well worth the wait --just hold on tight!
There will come a time where you know who you're destined to be with. That beautiful moment when everything aligns with that person and it will all fall into place. Right now may not be that time, but I'm still going to dream big and I'm going to live and love myself and everyone that's around me. Right now, I'm not going to miss out on all the opportunities that are sent my way. Right now, I am going to seek after God with my whole heart and be the person that I was made to be. Being single really isn't all that bad. Don't wait for someone to enter your life so you can start your life. Your life starts now!